Ok. On the discussion of external and internal peace, I think this is massive and central to the life of a parent of a child with autism. I'm feeling like I need a whole lot more. I have always only been able to find it in the absence of my children (them at school, daycare, sleeping, etc.). And therefore I planned my "cup-filling" routines during those times. Please share more. I think this is a true theme in this parenting lifestyle.
I'll admit that much of my self-nourishment occurs in the moments I have alone... away from my children AND my spouse (lol)... It's more efficient for me. I have a secret desire to become "better" at accomplishing this in the company of my two neurodivergent young children with more intentional activity to enrich us all... It's something I'll definitely have to learn.
I can identify with this... the desire to integrate relaxation and emotional regulation into the space that your family co-occupies. But it's very hard to do on a practical level. It's a life of constant interruption. I have used a vagus nerve stimulator. I have to sit still so if the kids are on their computers or slowing down for bed I can use it a little before everyone is asleep or on a weekend time when they are temporarily occupied (they are now 8 and 10). I also use "calm down drinks" that have some l-theanine, ashwaganda, and kava mixed with Fresca instead of drinking alcohol. This helps me to not meltdown or freak out with loud noises and competing sounds.
Ok. On the discussion of external and internal peace, I think this is massive and central to the life of a parent of a child with autism. I'm feeling like I need a whole lot more. I have always only been able to find it in the absence of my children (them at school, daycare, sleeping, etc.). And therefore I planned my "cup-filling" routines during those times. Please share more. I think this is a true theme in this parenting lifestyle.
I'll admit that much of my self-nourishment occurs in the moments I have alone... away from my children AND my spouse (lol)... It's more efficient for me. I have a secret desire to become "better" at accomplishing this in the company of my two neurodivergent young children with more intentional activity to enrich us all... It's something I'll definitely have to learn.
I can identify with this... the desire to integrate relaxation and emotional regulation into the space that your family co-occupies. But it's very hard to do on a practical level. It's a life of constant interruption. I have used a vagus nerve stimulator. I have to sit still so if the kids are on their computers or slowing down for bed I can use it a little before everyone is asleep or on a weekend time when they are temporarily occupied (they are now 8 and 10). I also use "calm down drinks" that have some l-theanine, ashwaganda, and kava mixed with Fresca instead of drinking alcohol. This helps me to not meltdown or freak out with loud noises and competing sounds.
Such wise & important advice ✋️
And it was hard-won my Friend!